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  1. Joseph
    October 28, 2012 at 4:05 AM

    An NLP Trainer’s review of the book that began NLP … For what it is this book is a 10, and it’s a hoot to read as well! Even though it’s now over 20 years old this is the first (and best-IMHO) book introducing the still cutting edge technology of human communication and cognition – Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP™). As far fetched a claim as it may seem, this is surely a seminal book in the field of human communication, linguistics, perception, cognition and psychology. The impact of NLP™ is present in all of these fields, often with more than a little kicking and yelling. After reading the book you’re sure to understand why – Bandler and Grinder hold very little about traditional approaches and academic thinking as sacred. Although it’s actually about a shift in the paradigm of how change can and does occur, it sometimes reads more like an exploration into the world of Svengali like magic and illusion. The material is presented in the form of a transcript of a live training superbly edited by Steve Andreas. The book is an example of ‘doing’ NLP™ as opposed to ‘describing’ it. It puts you in the training as Richard and John present it. As the editor of the book states in the forward, keep your mind open as you read because the authors are more often then not doing what they’re describing. You’ll want to read it with your eyes open – sometimes more easily said then done, since what the authors are doing is often presented in hypnotically engaging language. I’ve talked to more than one person who kept finding themselves waking up a few hours after having read through a few pages in this book. It is best to read this book as you would a novel, continuing through to the end, rather than trying to figure out or understand an individual section before moving on. The material is written is such a way as to resolve itself as you read. This is an example of “nested loops” a teaching technique Bandler and Grinder use extensively. However you get through it, in the end you’ll find your thinking about thinking changed, and the journey as well worthwhile as the destination. As they say themselves, this book has nothing to do with theory or even the truth about things – instead it’s “all about what works.” –This text refers to the Paperback edition.

  2. Michael L. Emery
    October 28, 2012 at 4:25 AM

    Buy It And Let Your Reality Improve! I first read this book waaaay back in 1981, when a neighbor gave me a copy. And even today, in the new millinium, it is as cutting -edge as it was back then. It is THE book to get started on in learning NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)which, simply put, is teaching yourself better communication. But instead of just being about better communication with others, it goes to the source, better communication with YOURSELF first. I don’t mean positive thinking, I’m talking about PRECISE thinking. The more precise and clear you can make your thinking, the more clear and precise you can be understood. Think about that last time you had a bad day, and it seemed as if one crummy thing after another happened. Chances are what REALLY happened was that you were talking TO YOURSELF in negative terms (“why can’t I…?”) which gave your brain NEGATIVE things to focus on, resulting in NEGATIVE things being the reality you had that day. How interested are you to learn the steps that will not only forever improve those “bad” days, but will start you on a path to becoming someone you always thought you wanted to be, but just never knew how to find yourself? Begin here….but please don’t stop here.Other Bandler/Grinder books I give 5 stars to are “Trance-Formations” and “Using your Brain – For a Change” and “Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson, M.D.” (Vols 1 & 2)

  3. peter Helton "DrPeter"
    October 28, 2012 at 4:41 AM

    frogs into princes This book is a little hard to get into because it is essentially a transcript of a Seminar that Richard and John put on to discuss their views on Neuro-Linguistic Programming to other therapists… These are two of the founders of NLP and it was written in 1979, a time when NLP was trying to establish itself in the therapeutic community. This is readily apparent by the stabs the authors make at existing paradigms. The book does not mention which author is talking so it is difficult to get a grasp of who`s viewpoints are whoms, so it is assumed that both authors are in agreement with the concepts presented. If you get out of the mindset of expecting the concept of NLP being presented in an organized easy to understand manner, then one can glean some interesting information and pearls from this book that I will share.The authors refer to themselves as modelers. Meaning they are masters of modeling others behaviors:” We pay very little attention to what people say and a great deal of attention to what they do…The function of modeling is to arrive at descriptions which are useful….We’re not offering you something that is true just things that are useful”They take a certain pride in separating themselves apart from other branches of therapy in that most of the other fields “focus on truth and may or may not get results.” However, they re-establish their status in the therapy field by modeling some of the greatest therapists in existence like Virginia Satir and Milton Erickson. There is included a therapy session by Satir with the authors explaining how she intuitively employs NLP by matching the client rather than trying to make the client match them.They came up with the concept of “if what you do does not work, do something else,” which you would think was intuitive. They go on to criticize other therapists who label their clients as “resistant” and accuse the non-NLP therapist that they are shifting the blame of poor results to the client when they should simply be trying something else. To cement this concept they offered discuss an experiment from the eighties where the B.J Skinner did work with rats and mazes. One day, he decided to add humans to the experiment. Over several weeks he performed the experiment where he taught the rats or human to run thru a maze for the reward of cheese or a 5 dollar bill found at the end of the maze. Of course, he noticed the humans were quicker learners as expected. Further results were counter intuitive. When he tried to extinguish the behavior by removing the reward found at the end of the maze, it became interesting. After multiple attempts the rats no longer attempted to run the maze….”however, the humans never stopped!! They are still there! They break into the lab at night looking for 5 dollar bills at the end of the maze.” That is the peculiar trait about human beings. “If they find something they can do that does not work, they do it again.” Thus the concept of “if what you do does not work, do something else.” I could not help but to have visions of Las Vegas and people putting their life savings into the slot machines looking for the reward at the end of the maze.There was an intriguing sentence on matching where they discussed representational systems and said that to establish good rapport one merely had to match the predicated words of the other person’s representational system. But if you want to alienate the other person you could deliberately mismatch the predicates. This skill could be very useful in situation where one would not want to converse like on an airplane.Another pearl was their view on what words mean. “Words are triggers that tend to bring into your consciousness certain parts of your experience and not others.” So you cannot hear a word without having an associative experience. Since everyone’s experience is different. everyone’s perception of a word will be slightly different. This is called slippage. There is a slippage between the words and a persons experience as well as a slippage between two peoples corresponding experience for the same word. This is their explanation for maps of reality although they do not distinctly label it as such.The authors went into a great deal of detail explaining to the audience how to attain visual acuity with respect to the eye motions indicating a person’s representational system that they are using. They did this with putting several audience members on stage and then asking them questions to see exactly what their body language and eye directions were. They went into greater detail with assessing one audience member as ” leads visually, represents kinesthetically and then has an auditory reference system check which tells him that his feelings are valid” I think part of this detail was to impress their audience with complexity rather than present an easily duplicatable system.They…

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